Decide.

 “WHAT I'M TELLING YOU IS, IF YOU WANT TO DO THINGS YOUR OWN WAY, YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO MAKE A DECISION - YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO FIND A LITTLE COURAGE.”

― John Irving, A Prayer for Owen Meany

It takes courage to make decisions.

You won't always have people rah-rah-ing you or high fiving you at the finish line. 

Especially when it involves self-care.

And that is okay. 

Do you slap yourself on the shoulder every so often and give yourself the nod of approval? 

Well, you should!

We, as ever-changing Humans, can be our worst critics and our biggest heroes. 

Be your hero. 

"Sometimes, you're all you have" -

and sometimes that's all you need.

Anonymous

The last four months have been...interesting.

I would dare to say difficult. 

Why?

I took on clients where I saw so much potential. 

I knew they had it in them to change.

To receive everything they said they wanted.

The problem was...they couldn't see it!

They couldn't get past the lies they fed(excuse the pun)themselves. 

To step out of the box they had put themselves in and see the truth of who they are. 

They weren't ready to be their own Hero. 

Where do you stand?

Do you rank high on your list of priorities? 

Do you listen to what people have said or are saying about you?

Do you allow other people to deter/discourage you from making necessary changes?  

When you make decisions(do you?)regarding your self-care, do you choose what is in your best and highest interests? 

Take the time to evaluate and assess. 

This doesn't have to be hard.

Just decide. 

Stay low, stay quiet, keep it simple, don't expect too much, enjoy what you have.Dean Koontz
Decide who you want to be. 

I don't say that lightly.

But it was my first step to self-approval. 

At any weight!

I decided who I was.

Where I wanted to be.

How I wanted to be.

And I try to live with intention.

With mistakes along the way, and that is also okay. 

This is to encourage you to do the same. 

I am going to leave you with a blueprint of sorts.

Write it out and allow change to happen.

Wishing you Love & Peace...but mostly, Peace. 

1. Work on loving yourself, right now, at this moment 

 

2.  Have quiet time with yourself (time out!)

 3.   If you aren't willing to do the work for change, stop complaining. 

 

 4. Big thighs, save lives! Love your thighs. Love your face. Love your butt. Need I say more? Okay, I will: LOVE YOURSELF!

5. Speak kind words to yourself and try, to others. 

6. Admit when you need help and then get it. 

 

HEY! Fat Girl!

Being a fat kid is hard. Being a fat girl in this society, is even harder. I was the fat girl and I remember, no matter how hard I try to forget, all the slights and name calling that was thrown my way. Not by strangers, but family. Now I have written about this before, but a conversation I had last week with a young lady prompted me to remember and I got PISSED! Who do these people think they are? You would think that being family that they would not say hurtful things to you, that they would look after your emotional and physical well-being. Not always the case I see. Everyone talks about bullying in the schools, they have whole commercials and talk shows dedicated to the subject. They talk about how being different is okay; different ethnically, sexually, etc. and that is wonderful. But I swear I have never seen or heard anyone talk about being the fat girl in school or being totally, emotionally whipped by family. Now, I am not saying that they don't have something out there that addresses this, I have just never seen it.  Then I wonder about the parents that allow siblings to pick on and humiliate other siblings, why don't they stop it? Some excuse it as sibling rivalry, really?! How is being called a fat bitch by your own brother sibling rivalry? Tubby, whale, elephant, tub-a-lard, I could go on, I have a slew of them. As I was talking to this girl and seeing her hurt, and hearing her hurt, my heart went out to her. No one can hurt you like family and we can't control who we are related to. But she understood that this IS a form of bullying and it isn't normal nor should you get used to such bad behavior. Our job as parents and family members is to teach all of our children that they are special. That's it. It shouldn't be a hard job! Not to allow one child to belittle another. That's it. Is this so hard? When we don't help our children love themselves that is a recipe for disaster. Have we all not watched enough Oprah and Dr. Phil shows to know what happens to kids with low self-esteem? We have to do better parents! Pay attention to what is going on in your homes. Wishing you Peace and Love, but mostly Peace.